2018 has not been an easy year if I have to be honest. It has been tough for me and at times I broke down into a ball of tears, spending days in a dark room under my covers. But no worries, there is always light at the end of the tunnel, and as my bae keeps telling me “This too shall pass”. I came across an article on one of my tearful episodes and I thought I would share with you. I know I am not the only one who sometimes gets a mental break down from time to time. I wouldn’t want to call it depression because I have not yet gotten a clinical diagnosis, but it sure feels like depression to me. Side note: mental health is no laughing matter. If you have come across someone who is seemingly suffering from depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, mental illness etc. please do not judge them and be kind enough to offer help. If you feel it’s something beyond your abilities, advice them to get psychiatric help. Don’t be quick to judge, “ane madhimoni”, “ane mamoods”, they could be battling something deep and dark. Anyway, back to the main topic. I had gone off on a tangent there. Do look out for an article on mental health next month.
Here is some advice on how to seemingly get your life in order (well that’s how I got out of my little rut and disorder and am getting my life together and back on track).
1. Write things down. Better yet, get a notebook to carry around with you so you’ll have somewhere to write. If you write “it” (all the things) down, you won’t have to stress about remembering it. Just make sure you’ve got it all in the same place. It relieves you of stressing over things and becoming overwhelmed by daily tasks.
2. In that note book, simplify your to do list; learn how to separate the urgent from the important and prioritize.
3. Plan your meals and your wardrobe for the week on the weekend before: This will give you time to rest after work or daily activities during the week and you will have a calm morning the next day instead of stressing on what to eat or wear. Work and life stresses are a lot already and you do not want to add on to that by having a wardrobe malfunction.
4. DECLUTTER Y’ALL!!!! Gosh you have no idea how therapeutic that is. Taking out unused products, taking out unworn clothes and shoes and just getting rid of junk from your house, room, wardrobe, email inbox, handbag changes your life. Doing a major declutter can be one of the most refreshing things ever. JUST LET IT GO, you will thank me later.
5. Stretch or go on a walk, jog, hike, or something. I find it refreshing and calming. When you come back to your normal life, you have a clearer sense of being and a refereshed mind.
6. Stop comparing yourself to people on social media 24/7! Social media has come as a curse and blessing. A blessing in that we can connect with friends and family in different countries easily. A curse in that we post great times and any developments in our lives and that’s when it all goes south. Argh, I definitely fall into the comparison trap and have been trying hard to recognize it. No one ever posts their bad moments and in most cases, when you are going through a bad moment in your life, someone is posting their holiday in Dubai, someone else is getting married, someone else has been promoted at their job, but you are trying to keep your nose above the water in this Zimbabwe we are living in. Give yourself times to spend on social media. Once or twice a day, for an hour maybe? After that hour is done, you can go back to getting your life in order, because honestly speaking, whining over someone’s holiday and promotion will not pay any of your bills.
So that’s it y’all. Next month, we dive into the different forms of mental illness. I feel there is a major misconception and misunderstandings around that topic. There is definitely more to it than what meets the eye.