My editor asked me to write an article on Valentine’s day – the nostalgia of it all – the matching red and white outfits, the creepy bears with beaded eyes, the awful tea mugs with kissy face pictures. I thought to myself – I hardly believe in love so what contribution could I possibly have to offer about a day that literally celebrates love. Why I don’t believe in love? – it’s a long story and I don’t think you have that kind of time. But, just because you don’t believe in something, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist, right? Like how some people don’t believe in aliens but I literally just saw a flying saucer the either day and everyone knows we are not alone in the universe!
So, I did what people that don’t know much do, I went in search of those that do, to find out from them what love means and how they know when they are loved. Here is what they had to say…
“I reckon it’s the little things hey, when someone is concerned about your welfare, when they value the things you value too, when they put you first”
“Love is an act of selflessness. When they make you a priority, put you first above everything else. Love and embrace your family or whoever means a lot to you. It’s when your happiness means everything to them!”
“I think love skipped my generation, vana slay Queen/Kings, lol. I think love is more than just a ‘feeling’ of love. Its not a feeling, it’s your actions. You identify the actions of love from that verse in Corinthians. When a person is kind to you, is honest, tolerates some of your actions and tells you when you are being crae, lol”
“Love means never hurting the one you love”
“Love is when you feel at your most vulnerable around someone. It’s a feeling only those in love can feel”
“Love is like water! Love is fluid. It will fit in any space, anywhere. Whatever flavour or colour you put in it, it will become that for you. Just like it’s difficult to completely express what water tastes like, it is difficult to completely express what love feels like. For some its butterflies, for some it’s a rush, for others its warmth and yet for other people it’s all those combined. Love is to be felt, not explained.”
“I’m a firm believer in actions speaking louder than words. Words are easy to say. Someone who loves you will likely exhibit the definition of love from Corinthians. That is the simplest way to put it because people express differently. There isn’t a one size fits all.”
“Love is a million little things…from how they hold your hand, how they talk to you, look at you in public- to how they consider your feelings, show up for you, forgive you, embrace your bad little habits and grow and change with you. Love is a million little things.”
Love has many faces I have come to learn. It cannot be defined nor quantified. It is an expression, a
feeling- an experience!
To all those that love and are loved HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY… I hope it’s everything it means to you!
By Yvonne Mateko